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AN
AFFIRMATION OF GOD'S GIFT OF SEXUALITY
Human beings
are created in the image of a relational God and designed to enjoy
an intimate relationship with their Creator and one another (Gen.
1:26, 27; Matt. 22:37-39; John 17:3; 1 John 4:11, 12). From the
beginning, God fashioned humankind in two genders, male and female
(Gen. 1:27). Magnificent expressions of His creative genius, the
man and woman evoked His deepest satisfaction and passionate acclaim.
Both were sexual creatures by their very nature, and God intended
that they would rejoice in their maleness or femaleness. His creative
work was "very good" (Gen. 1:31)! There was nothing incomplete
or shameful about what He had made. Maleness and femaleness afford
a primary basis for human beings to define their personhood and
their relationships with God and each other (Ps. 8:3-6; 100:3; Is.
43:1, 3, 4; Jer. 1:5; 1 John 4:7, 8).
God created male and female to complement one another (Gen. 2:18,
20-22). In Eden, they shared equally God's image and blessing. Together
they were given responsibility for dominion over and care for the
earth, and for procreation (Gen. 1:26-28). They were created with
an intrinsic longing and desire for one another, physically, sexually,
emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually (Gen. 2:23-25; Prov.
5:18, 19; Song of Sol. 2:16, 17; 4:9). With the creation of the
sexes, each came to understand self and other (Gen. 2:23). In the
moment they met for the first time, the yearning of Adam's heart
and soul for partnership and intimate communion burst forth into
joyous acclamation: "This is now bone of my bones and flesh
of my flesh" (Gen. 2:23). Immediately they recognized each
other as companions, counterparts, persons capable of meeting one
another's needs. Each saw the other as one corresponding to their
being, one equal but different, someone to love who would love in
return (Gen. 2:18, 20b-23).
The Bible presents
a wholistic view of human beings with no dichotomy between body
and spirit (Gen. 2:27; Ps. 63:1; 84:1, 2, 1 Thess. 5:23). In both
the Old and New Testaments, sexuality is clearly regarded as a valuable
gift from God, to be received with gratitude and freely enjoyed
within the marriage relationship (Gen. 1:24, 25; Prov. 5:15-19;
Song of Sol. 2:16; 4:16-5:1; 1 Cor. 7:1-5). Sexual expression within
marriage is portrayed as wholesome and honorable (Ps. 139:13-16;
Song of Sol. 4:10-16; 7:1-9; 1 Cor. 6:19). The Scripture's positive
attitude towards human sexuality is further confirmed by the use
of the imagery of marital intimacy to describe God's relationship
with His people (Is. 54:5; 62:4,5; Jer. 3:14; Ez. 16:8; Hos. 2:19,
20; Rev. 19:6-9).
In marriage,
God intended that one man and one woman would be joined together
for life by covenant promise (Gen. 2:24,25; Song of Sol. 2:16; Mal.
2:13, 14; Matt. 19:4-6). This marriage relationship is described
as one flesh (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:5) and presumes a sexual union
(1 Cor. 7:1-6). The Scripture affirms sexual pleasure between husband
and wife for its unitive purposes, apart from procreation. God intends
for the sexual relationship to bond husband and wife together as
they bring to one another companionship, emotional support, spiritual
fulfillment, joy and sexual pleasure (Gen. 2:24, 25; Prov. 5:15-19;
Eccl. 9:9; Song of Sol. 4:16-5:1; Eph. 5:21-33). A loving marriage
and sexual union was also God's chosen setting for procreation (Gen.
1:28; 4:1). Such a relationship provides the most secure environment
for the care and nurture of children (Eph. 6:4).
Sexual intimacy
finds its deepest meaning in husband-wife relationships characterized
by love, closeness, mutuality and commitment. In God's design, the
sexual relationship is one of respect, mutual desire and consent
and loving fulfillment of one another's needs (Prov. 5:15-23; Song
of Sol. 2:16-17; 4:16-5:1; 7:8-10; Mal. 2:15; 1 Cor. 7:3-5). In
the context of their commitment to Christ and one another, couples
make decision together about their sexual experience. The biblical
principles of mutual submission (Eph. 5:21) and thoughtful care
for one another's needs and desires (Phil. 2:4) help couples to
reach decisions which are satisfying to both husband and wife. Sexual
practice that harms or threatens the physical, emotional or spiritual
health and well-being of one or both partners violates the Scripture's
elevated view of persons and its call to care for the body as God's
handiwork and dwelling place (Gen. 2:25; Ps. 63:1; 139:13-16; 1
Cor 3:16-17).
As God surveyed
His creation, He observed, "It is not good for the man to be
alone. I will make a helper suitable for him" (Gen. 2:18).
Though the creation story establishes marriage as God's primary
answer to aloneness (Gen. 2:24), in the broader sense aloneness
is dispelled through connection with God and fellow human beings
in mutually satisfying relationships (Rom. 14:7). All human beings
were created for life in community, where persons whose differences
would otherwise separate them are bound together as one in Jesus
Christ (Rom. 12:4-5; 1 Cor. 12:12, 13; Gal. 3:28; Eph. 2:14-22;
4:1-6). While some, by choice or circumstance, are single, they
may experience wholeness as individuals, connect with others through
family and friends, and bring glory to God as single men and women
(Matt. 19:12; 1 Cor. 7:7, 8). Sexual intimacy is reserved for a
husband and wife whose relationship is protected by covenant promise
(Prov. 5:15-19; Song of Sol. 2:6,7; 3:5; 8:3,4; 4:12; 8:8-10; Hos.
3:3).
As a result
of sin, sexuality has been devalued and, in many cases, wrenched
apart from intimacy, love and covenant relationship. Because sexuality
is such a powerful vehicle for connectedness, and because it is
such an intrinsic part of the wholistic nature of human beings,
whenever it is damaged, debased, abused, misused, or counterfeited,
the repercussions have an enormous impact on the persons and their
relationships. Scripture cries out against such travesty. It calls
Christians to flee from sexual immorality and, by God's grace, to
stretch toward the full restoration of His original design for sexuality
(Prov. 5:15-20; Hos. 2:2; 6:1-3; 1 Cor. 6:15-20; Gal. 5:16-26; Eph.
5:3-10; 21-33; Col. 3:1-19; 1 Thess. 5:23, 24).
While condemning
as sin our selfish failures to reflect God-given norms for sexuality,
Scripture demonstrates Jesus' readiness to forgive those who repent
of sexual sins. God's renewing power and love have enabled many
to experience a transformation from sexual brokenness to healing,
wholeness, and peace (Luke 7:36-50; John 4:4-28; 8:1-11).
This statement
originated at the World Commission on Human Sexuality, October 1997.
It was approved and voted by four departmental world advisories
in March 2001; Departments of Family Ministries, Health Ministries,
Women's Ministries and Chaplaincy Ministries.
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